Hokmah ExpositorPremarital Counseling Curriculum
PREMARITAL COUNSELING CURRICULUM
Prepare engaged couples for the covenant they are making.
Hokmah Expositor drafts a seven-session premarital course from Scripture, shaped by what you know about the couple. Every session comes with a guide for you and material for the two of them.
AI-assisted drafts for you to review · No credit card to start
Choose your confessional layer
Scripture onlyWestminster ConfessionLondon Baptist Confession (1689)HOW IT WORKS
From what you know
to a course you can lead.
You know the couple. Hokmah drafts a course around that knowledge for you to examine before you meet with them.
Name the course
Usually the couple's names, so you can find it again in My Hokmah.
Describe the couple
Write freely: the spiritual profile of each one, family history, how long they have dated and been engaged, conflicts already noticed, differences, finances and your own observations.
Set the practical details
Sessions of 60, 75 or 90 minutes, in a church room, your home, the couple's home or online, with the confessional layer you choose.
Generate the overview, then each session
The overview gives the course objective, a pastoral reading of the couple's context, the purpose of each session and guidance for you. Then generate the sessions one at a time.
THE SEVEN SESSIONS
The same ground for every couple,
applied to this one.
The sequence is fixed, so no essential topic is left out. The couple's context shapes the tone and emphases of each session.
| Session | Base text | Emphasis |
|---|---|---|
| 1. The Covenant and the Fear of the Lord | Gen 2; Eph 5 | Marriage as a spiritual covenant before God, with Christ and the Church as its pattern. |
| 2. Love, Communication, and Service | 1 Cor 13 | Love as decision and practice, intentional communication, serving before demanding. |
| 3. Family of Origin and Family Patterns | Gen 2:24; Eph 4:31-32 | Leaving one household and building a new one, without clinical diagnosis. |
| 4. Roles, Functions, and Responsibility | Eph 5; 1 Pet 3 | Leadership as service and biblical complementarity, without an authoritarian tone. |
| 5. Finances and Marital Agreements | Prov 21:5; Luke 16:10 | Transparency, stewardship and clear agreements, without imposing a single financial model. |
| 6. Conflict, Forgiveness, and Renewal | Matt 18:15-20; Eph 4:32 | Conflict is not failure. Forgiveness as a practice of the gospel. |
| 7. Sexuality and Marital Intimacy | Song of Songs; 1 Cor 7; Heb 13:4 | A biblical theology of sexuality as a gift of the covenant, in reverent language. |
Sessions quote the English Standard Version.
INSIDE EVERY SESSION
A guide for you.
Material for the couple.
Each session is written in two parts: a guide that helps you lead the conversation, and a shorter section the couple can keep.
When you choose a confession, the exposition also carries a confessional reference applied to marriage.
For the couple
- Theme, base text and central idea
- Three or four questions to reflect on
- A practice for this week
- A verse to meditate on
- Praying together
- Central ThemeThe truth this session wants to communicate.
- Base TextsThe reading, a supporting text and brief context.
- Central IdeaOne clear, memorable sentence.
- Biblical ExpositionThe central truth, its Reformed foundation and its application to marriage.
- Application to the CoupleThree or four concrete applications for their situation.
- Questions for DialogueAt least five, including one for praying together.
- Exercise for the WeekOne practice before the next session.
- Guidance for the PastorObjective, points of attention, possible resistance, tone.
- Closing PrayerA brief, Christ-centered prayer.
PASTORAL CARE BUILT IN
Preparation,
not therapy.
This is biblical preparation for the marriage covenant. Hokmah generates the material with AI, it can misread a text, and it knows only what you tell it about the couple.
- When the context you describe suggests abuse, serious trauma or addiction, the material gives guidance for referral to Christian professional counseling.
- The session on sexuality uses reverent language and can include separate guidance for the man and the woman when you judge it necessary.
- You can export the sessions you have generated as a PDF.
- It does not give medical advice or psychological diagnosis.
- It does not replace professional counseling where a couple needs it.
- It does not replace your knowledge of the couple or your pastoral judgment.
Hokmah prepares the draft. The pastor remains responsible for the counsel given.
PRICING
Start free. Upgrade when it becomes part of your ministry.
Start with limited free use and no credit card. Paid plans cost $19 a month, $99 every six months or $179 a year, with unlimited generations and your work synced to your account.
Compare plansIs this counseling or a Bible course?
It is biblical preparation for the marriage covenant within the Reformed tradition. It is not therapy, and it points you to a Christian professional when a couple's situation calls for one.
How many sessions does the course have?
Seven, in a fixed sequence: covenant, love and communication, family of origin, roles, finances, conflict and forgiveness, and sexuality. You choose 60, 75 or 90 minutes per session.
Does it adapt to each couple?
Yes. What you write about the couple shapes the tone and emphases of the course: the pastoral reading of their context, the applications, the dialogue questions and the guidance for you. The seven topics stay the same.
Can the couple take something home?
Yes. Every session has a section for the couple with the central idea, reflection questions, a practice for the week, a verse to meditate on and a prompt for praying together. You can export the sessions you have generated as a PDF.
Does it work for Reformed Baptist churches?
Yes. Choose the London Baptist Confession (1689) or the Westminster Confession as the confessional layer, or keep the course to Scripture only.
Is it free?
You can start free with limited use and no credit card. Paid plans remove the limit and sync your work to your account.
BEFORE THE WEDDING
Prepare the next couple
who asks you to marry them.
Prepare your first course freeNo credit card to start.